Friday, July 8, 2011

Ollie loves...


DINOTRUX!!!
One night I was reading Ollie a stack of library books, he was half asleep and I asked him, "What do you want to read next? Dinotrux?" And he started laughing out loud. I said, "What's so funny? You like Dinotrux?" And he guffawed again. "DINOTRUX!" "Hahahaahahahahahaha!" Trach kids don't make much noise and laughter is one of those things you just miss out on until they can get enough air past the trach and to their vocal chords. To hear him just laugh and laugh so hard in his breathy, soft way every time I said Dinotrux was SO wonderful. And hilarious! He still does it and it's been like a week. He has never had that reaction to just saying something. It really is adorable. And the book is great! Heavy, modern illustrations and really cool species of dinotrux, which, as I'm sure you know, evolved into the helpful and courteous trucks we all know today. Colfax Library Trivia: This is a signed copy!

P.S. Okay, so we read a LOT and since day one it has been, "Don't bite books" - I say it at least ten times a day. Sometimes he'll be respectful and be doing such a good job turning pages and checking the cover a hundred times to make sure it hasn't changed after every page (sometimes he checks TWICE!), but if you get distracted for even a second that book will be in his mouth. So, please don't think that he normally is allowed to chew on books. If I didn't want my hand in the picture wrenching it from his jaws I had to let him just get a nibble!

Thursday, July 7, 2011

Ollie loves...


These teething biscuits are HUGE. Oliver is holding only half of one in this photo! They are pretty hard so he can chomp away on it all day and it only gets a bit soggy. I found them at Whole Foods. Ollie shared a bite (his new trick!) and they are tasty!

Tuesday, March 1, 2011

Oliver Abridged

Oliver is nine months old. He spent the first three months of his life in the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit (NICU) and the last six here at home with us, homebound by doctor’s orders. He is a very healthy, happy, brilliant little boy who had bit of a rough time when his GI tract was developing and subsequently must breathe through a trach tube and get all his nutrition straight into his intestines via a j-tube.

We first got a clue there might be something unusual going on with the baby when I was about 22 weeks pregnant and they were unable to find his stomach during an ultrasound. We were told it probably just was empty at the time and they’d do another ultrasound in a few weeks to give him time to grow a bit more. I tried not to worry too much, but googling what happens to babies born without a stomach is not a comforting thing. When we went back for the repeat imaging and they still couldn’t find his stomach we knew things were about to get complicated. Another ultrasound two week later showed I had polyhydramnios (too much amniotic fluid) and it pretty much confirmed what they had been suspecting: Oliver’s stomach was not showing up in the images because he was unable to swallow amniotic fluid and that was because his esophagus did not reach his stomach, a condition called esophageal atresia (EA). We met with a surgeon (Dr. D) who explained to us how the defect would be repaired after birth and we prepared ourselves as much as we could.

The last weeks of my pregnancy were not easy. Because Oliver wasn’t swallowing amniotic fluid, and thereby absorbing it, I had wayyy more fluid than I should have and that is not a comfortable thing! I also developed preeclampsia and had the most god-awful swelling. Some days I couldn’t even bend my legs to walk. The physical discomfort coupled with the emotional strain of worrying about the baby and knowing he’d be undergoing surgery and staying in the NICU and having many potential difficulties related to EA ahead - it was tough. I ended up on bed rest at 35 weeks and at 36 weeks they were inducing me before the preeclampsia killed me or the baby or both of us.

Oliver was due July 9, but born at the end of May via emergency c-section. I got to hear him cry (the cutest cry EVER) and see him for just a few seconds before they whisked him off to the NICU. He was 4lb 8 oz and 19 inches long.

Eleven hours passed before I got to see him again and that wait was such torment! He was so beautiful. I’ll never forget that feeling of relief to finally be able to touch him and examine him. He was so tiny and looked so fragile with all the tubes and wires attached to him.

It was confirmed that Oliver had EA and also a tracheosophageal fistula (TEF) which often accompanies the condition. One end of his esophagus ended in a blind pouch and his stomach was connected instead to his trachea. Left unrepaired, not only would he starve to death, but he'd also end up breathing in stomach acid. They say about 1 in 4,000 are born with some type of EA and/or TEF. At our hospital it was running about 1 in 500 for the year, incidentally (hmmm).

Oliver underwent surgery when he was five days old. His esophagus was connected to his stomach successfully, however, it was discovered that was not the extent of his defects. He also had a large cleft between his esophagus and his trachea. Any fluid going into his mouth and even saliva would go right into his lungs and constant pneumonia was an inevitability. It would have to be repaired, but not until he was a bit bigger and stronger.

Although the esophagus repair was successful there was some damage done by surgery. One of Oliver’s lymph channels was nicked and this caused chyle, or lymph fluid, to leak into his chest cavity - called chylothorax. Some of our scariest NICU moments involved this chyle leak. The first was when one of his doctors explained to us what was going on and then made it clear in no uncertain terms that if the leak did not stop Oliver would not survive. He did not, however, let us know that chylothorax was very common after surgeries around the chest and that they almost always heal right up (this doctor became notorious for making parents feel like the worst was just around the corner) so, although if it didn’t stop it would kill him, the chances of it NOT stopping were slim. But for a day and a half I was trying to come to terms with what I thought was the fact that we were might lose him. Well, we did actually almost lose him because of the chylothorax one very scary morning. A drain tube had been preventing the fluid from building up in his chest but in the wee hours it clogged. Greg was holding him when things started to go bad. There was so much fluid in his chest he couldn’t expand his lungs and they were slowly being crushed. He was suffocating. They tried bagging him and, of course, that didn’t work because his lungs couldn’t move. Things escalated very quickly. They were losing him while Greg watched, helpless. Thank goodness the doctor arrived just in time and only hesitated a moment before pulling out a big needle, sticking it right between his ribs, and pulling out over 60 cc of fluid in just seconds. The thought of the incident still makes me woozy and want to cry at the thought of him being in such danger. Fortunately, with medication to slow the production of chyle fluid and some time, the nick was able to heal and the leak stopped. Phew!

Surgery for the cleft repair was set for July an Dr. D. would be accompanied by Dr. R, a neck and throat surgeon, for the first time. A secure airway would need to be established to allow the repair and in case of any problems post-operatively (such as scar tissue, which would indeed prove to be a problem), so Oliver underwent a tracheostomy at three weeks old (that means he’d breathe through a hole in his neck). He also got a gastric tube (g-tube) inserted into his stomach which was supposed to allow feeding as he was only getting IV nutrition (TPN) at that time and it’s just not the same as real food. , However, when Dr. D went to place the g-tube it was discovered that he had yet another defect - microgastria. His stomach basically never developed. Usually the esophagus goes down into the stomach pouch and then into the intestines. The shape of he stomach helps to prevent reflux and the pouch, of course, holds food so that it can slowly be released into the intestines. In Oliver it looks like his esophagus goes straight into his intestines - one long tube with just a slight widening where his stomach should be. We would not be able to use the g-tube for feeding.

So Oliver went back under the knife, this time to have a jejunostomy tube (j-tube) placed. Also, anticipating that one day the fix for Oliver’s stomach might be to create a new one using his intestines, Dr. D cut and rearranged a section of Oliver’s intestine in a roux-en-y configuration. Finally Oliver was able to get real food into his system!

July 14th came quickly and it was time for the cleft repair. Not only would they sew up the opening between the esophagus and the trachea, but they’d also graft bone from his rib into one of his tracheal rings to enlarge it, something they didn’t know they’d need to do until they were in there and one more defect to add to his list.

Life in the NICU was surreal. We slept in the parking lot of the hospital in a motor home lent to us by a (wonderful!) friend. Greg would spend the early morning hours with Oliver then head home to work (so funny to work out of the house but still have to drive to work). I would spend the day with him, taking a break for lunch and to stretch my legs, then head back until the evening when Greg would arrive and we’d grab dinner. It was back to the boy until 10:00 or so and then off to bed to do it all over again the next morning. Sometimes we’d bring in the laptop and watch a movie together with earplugs while I held Ollie. Most of the time we’d just sit together and talk to the nurses until the boy fell asleep. He had wonderful nurses that we got to know well and who made the experience so much easier for us all. Oliver was sedated a lot of the time, but when he was alert he was happy. He was the darling of the NICU. Everyone declared him the cutest baby ever and he had quite a fan club going among the nurses. I didn’t get to hold him until he was two weeks old and then he was always between procedures and couldn’t be moved, so, especially in the beginning, when I got to hold him it was a very big deal. The first time I held him for six hours straight! I’ll always treasure those hours I spent with him. I got to watch his eyebrows and eyelashes come in. I got to watch him figure out how to control his eyes (Cookie Monster!) and discover his hands. It was a strange situation in which to get to know your new child - to always have people around, to have to ask if you can hold him, to have to leave and not be able to take him with you - but it’s our story of getting to know each other and become a new family of three and, unless I could make him not have to go through the pain and trauma, I wouldn’t change a thing.

We got to bring Oliver home on August 27th, three months after he was born. I still feel so warm and fuzzy at the memory of how good it felt to walk through the front door as a family, finally. It didn’t take Oliver long to settle into life at home and he has thrived. He recently had a fundoplication, a procedure where the stomach is wrapped to prevent reflux, which plagued Oliver severely. It appears to have been a success! His trach has been ready to come out for a few months now - dialtions of his trachea and a course of steroids got the scarring under control and his airway is good to go - but, it was left in to make anesthetizing him during this last surgery safer as intubating him could trigger more scar tissue. Oliver may be decannulated by the end of next month! The plan with his stomach is to begin feeding him through his g-tube in small amounts (Ollie Trivia: his stomach capacity is 40mL. We know because they checked it when they had him opened up for surgery. Cool!) in the hopes that it will stretch and grow over time. If it does not we still have the option of creating a new stomach pouch for him. He still has a long road. Children who don’t eat by mouth from birth often have oral aversion and getting them to eat can be a challenge. And when he does eat there may be some problems with swallowing as the motility in the section of esophagus that was repaired will likely not work and he will need to rely on gravity (and chewing really well!) to get food down. There also is an issue with him aspirating very easily, perhaps due to a vocal chord that was damaged during surgery (very common) and now doesn’t quite close all the way (his voice will be affected by it and I’m so anxious to find out how when we finally get to hear him when that trach comes out!). We will get it all figured out, though. The future looks bright for the G3! I have big adventures in store for us.

I titled this “Oliver Abridged” but it barely touches on WHO he is and only explains his defects and medical history and he is definitely not defined by his defects. He is so happy, very healthy (never been sick in the six months we’ve had him home!), and so smart and inquisitive. He has the greatest little personality and such wisdom in his eyes. He’s silly and adorable and cuddly and fun and I just can’t believe how lucky we are to have him in our lives. It might seem strange to see a kid who has so many issues and declare him perfect, but I do. And he is.

Wednesday, May 26, 2010

Double Whammy!

Aaand now I'm on bed rest with preeclampsia. It's not very often I go around pitying myself, but come on already! It has been very difficult coping with everything related to Oliver's condition and the polyhydramnios situation and now I have ample time to sit and worry about it more PLUS the added bonus of worrying about a condition that could take us both out. Iy, iy, iy.

It's a bizarre feeling, this preeclampsia. Most of the time I feel just fine, relaxing on the couch or lying in bed. But, boy, if I'm up for even a few minutes I feel awful. My blood pressure has been gradually increasing - from 150ish/85ish in the beginning to anywhere from 170-190ish/90-100ish. And I'm tired all the time. And I swell terribly. I even wake up swollen most days. There are things to look for that indicate things are taking a turn for the worse - blurred vision, headache that won't go away, abdominal pain - but, with the exception of some weird vision anomalies that I reported to the doctor, I'm not experiencing those things and hopefully never will. Besides the elevated blood pressure there's also protein in my urine, which gets there from the kidneys spilling it. With preeclampsia kidney and liver failure can happen and the high blood pressure can reduce oxygen to the baby and cause brain damage or death. Knowing this and being 40 minutes from the hospital has me feeling a lot of stress which I know can't help matters. So I try not to think about it too much, but sometimes it gets a bit overwhelming. I'm 33 1/2 weeks now. If my blood pressure continues to rise or any other complications appear they will have to induce. Between the polyhydramnios making my body think I'm about 38 weeks pregnant and the preeclampsia issue it's not looking like I'm going to be able to carry the poor kid to term. I'm sorry, Oliver! I'm trying my best to keep you in the oven as long as I can.

It sucks not being able to nest and get the house all tidied up for the company we'll have right after Ollie's born. Greg has been wonderful in taking care of me. He has even been preparing some meals! He works so hard already and to for him take on extra duties without the slightest complaint is just amazing. He really is such a wonderful husband!

Tuesday, April 27, 2010

We're going to be parents!!!

It's still hard to believe that I'm pregnant. Even with this gigantic tummy, it's hard to believe. It was in January of last year that Greg and I had our serious talk about really trying to start a family. In fact, it was on the way out to a race at Primm and when we got there I was so excited to tell my dear cousin Mo that we had decided to be parents and you know what her response was? "I'm pregnant." Now here it is a year later, she's got her adorable Madeline and is getting ready to have a son, too, just two months after I'm due! And my little brother, Bobby, and his wife, Tarra will be welcoming their little girl just a couple weeks before I'm due. And then there's my cousin, Amber, who, along with her husband Russell, just had a little boy. AND there's my step-dad's son, Chris, and his wife, Suzie, who just had a little boy, too! We are experiencing quite the baby boom in our family this year!
I got pregnant just a month after we moved 500 miles from our families, from Southern California to Northern California. Apparently the pine trees and fresh mountain air agree with my girly bits. It has been strange going through such a joyous time so far from our loved ones, but it has given me a lot of alone time to plan for the baby and contemplate just how much our lives are going to change.
Oliver is due in July. We found out just a week ago that he very likely has a birth defect called esophageal atresia and/or tracheoesophageal fistula (EA/TEF). Basically that means he will not be able to swallow properly without surgery. The esophagus does not reach the stomach and there may also be a connection between the esophagus and the trachea which can result in saliva, food, and stomach acid to be breathed into his lungs. A hundred years ago this would have meant a death sentence (by starvation or drowning), but today it can be repaired, thank goodness. It won't be an easy road ahead, but we will get through it. We are learning as much as we can about the condition and what challenges may lie ahead.
I have been very fortunate to have found some moms in our area who have children who have had the condition corrected or who are currently waiting for surgery. A couple of the moms are even in the same hospital as we will be, with the same surgeon! EA/TEF occurs in every 3500-4000 births. There have been five cases at our hospital in the past year. Seems a little high, doesn't it? Unfortunately they don't know what causes the problem and it seems to affect parents across the board from all different ages and backgrounds (although there does seem to be higher incidences in white folks). We still have so much to learn and prepare for. We see the surgeon later this week and hope that we will be able to learn more.
Although the baby seems to be growing just fine in every other way the condition does result in me having a higher level of amniotic fluid (polyhydramnios - normally babies swallow and absorb some, but since Ollie doesn't swallow that's not happening). This can result in preterm labor, but I am hoping so hard that he doesn't come early. I'll be at 30 weeks on Friday and I've read a lot of stories of moms going into labor as early as 32 weeks from polyhydramnios. So, I've been busy getting my hospital bag together and making lists of things to prep for, just in case. It seems surreal to be packing a bag for Oliver when he's not even here yet. So many of the things I've been putting away in his nursery are now being pulled out and packed into bags (he will not get to come home with us for anywhere from weeks to months - the neonatal intensive care unit will be his home for a while).
This past week has been one of the hardest of my life and the scary thing is I know that it will pale in comparison to the experiences we have coming up. But, I am not letting that overshadow the anticipation of the joy we will have when our little guy gets here. It hurts my heart to know that he will have to go through so much as he starts out his life, but I am eager to sooth and comfort and be the best mom I can to him through it all.